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Daniel Oppenheimer's avatar

Three quick thoughts:

What's gooning (I refuse to look it up).

I liked your point about the Mike Judge vibe of being traditional but non -judgmental. Hadn't thought about it but it seems right to his product. Also I wonder if maybe the Fixer Upper folks - Chip and Joanna Gaines - have that vibe, and maybe it has something to do with their appeal.

Not at all what you were saying about the dissipation of normie-dom, but it reminded me of a thought I have sometimes, which is that probably 80+% of people in the world experience a fair amount of social anxiety and awkwardness in their dealings with other people who aren't their closest friends and kin -- i.e. in the workplace, at social gatherings, at school events (if you have kids), etc. -- and yet we've defined normal as someone who doesn't mostly experience that anxiety and awkwardness, so everyone's walking around thinking everyone else is socially adept but in fact the truly socially adept are a small minority. Basically being a bit of a nerd is the default. This is in part how I make sense of every celebrity profile quoting the given celebrity saying that when they were a kid they were kind of an outcast, or describing themselves as "nerds." I used to think they were bullshitting, and then I thought maybe celebrity selects for really charismatic people with childhoods of alienation, but now I just think it's everyone.

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Blake Smith's avatar

I think the last 200 years have seen many groups claiming and being involuntarily figured as the emblems of existential freedom and the dizziness of self-creation (the 'new woman', gays, Jews, poets, dandies, etc) so the 'we are all ___' statements just strike me as having the same shape as the rotating gallery of The ____ Question, not as something peculiar to transness or gender in our slice of modernity.... I don't think I have a theory about which doors are to be closed to whom, but I do think everyone insofar as they have an idea of politics also has some idea about a door, no? (Even the line of thought that begins, 'I'm not sure that person's line of thought is good for my people [which is a totally normal--and normative--line, one without which, how could we live?]' is a political and exclusionary one, asking about friends and enemies. As Hank says, at some point you ask the other "politely but firmly to leave")

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